Posted September 25th, 2016
So I finally finished up my adult coloring book of mandalas, filigree, and geometric patterns. Hooray! Pick one up from Amazon, it’s available through Prime! This would be a great Christmas present or birthday present or bar mitzvah. This is only the first, and right now I’m in the works for another coloring book of traditional tattoo designs.
I worked very hard on this one, and will keep putting them out as long as you keep buying them. Probably longer. Past any point of relevance I may have. Until you hate it and want me to stop. So clicky on the pretty pictures and make the things happen.
Posted August 29th, 2016
Let’s be honest, it’s hard to be honest. In fact, a 2002 study published in the Journal of Basic and Applied Psychology says that the average person lies 100 times per day. In a brief 10 minute conversation, 60% of people lied, and the average was 3 lies in that 10 minute conversation. One of the most fascinating things is that most of these people believed they were telling the truth.
It’s little white lies that we tell, without even thinking about it. We act like we understand a word and fake our way through conversations, we say we had seen a movie when we didn’t, or the one I’m most guilty of, I’ve heard of a band I’ve never heard of. We often do these things to fit in, or be more liked. Is there really a purpose though? To what end are lies helping us?
The truth is, they’re not. Lies don’t help us at all. Unless we are in a life or death situation, there is no reason to lie. Telling small lies to fit in? What’s that about? Why is it so important to feel like we are part of the group? There’s nothing wrong with saying you’ve never heard of an obscure Appalachian folk band, or never seen American Graffiti. Not everyone is a fan of sports, and you shouldn’t fake your way through a talk about football if you’ve never watched a game in your life. If a person’s opinion of you is based on minutiae like this, then why are you striving for their approval so hard? Personally, I would rather have someone be honest and say they’ve never seen the movie or heard of the band. It gives me an opportunity to share something with them, and expand their knowledge base.
I had a long habit of telling big lies. That’s what happens when you are suffering from addictions. You lie to cover up your behavior. But it had gotten well past just big lies. I would create intricate webs of small lies to cover my tracks. I would lie about stopping at stores. Lie about how much money was in the bank. Lie about paying a ticket, or sending out bills, or scheduling a doctor appointment. Lies, lies, lies. One after another. When you have a habit of lying, you desperately need to keep those lies intact. You can’t have the truth uncovered, or you face ridicule, shame, and damaged relationships. It creates undue stress on your mind, and it will come out in destructive ways.
Honesty has been the single most important part of my recovery. Not just my recovery from alcoholism, but my recovery as a human being. Stepping outside of the confines I’ve constructed in my mind, and setting forth in a life that seeks to build up others, not just myself. If you want people to trust you, you have to be honest. If you want them to believe in you, you have to give them a reason to believe. One of the most important aspects of strong relationships with others is the credit you build with them. How much can they trust you, and how much weight can they put into the words that you say?
Lying is easy. Just keep trying to protect your fragile mind, and lies will just fall out of your mouth with little effort. But get uncomfortable, and push for growth, and get honest. It may hurt a little at first, but true growth requires you to get uncomfortable. Live honestly. I know I make an effort at it every day.
Posted August 7th, 2016
So last week, Instagram rolled out its new feature, Stories. This works remarkably like Snapchat, and a lot of people are considerably upset about the addition. We all like to bitch about new features from any of our beloved platforms, and over the last couple years, we REALLY like to bitch about Instagram. Never mind that these are apps and sites that are both optional for us to use, and free of charge. We don’t HAVE to browse Instagram or Facebook or Twitter 10 hours a day, we choose to.
So the new feature of Stories works very simply. You take short video or photos, add emojis and text, and they delete themselves after 24 hours. Sounds familiar. I’ve struggled to find footing with Snapchat. There’s no news feed, no profiles, and you can’t search it. This is incredibly frustrating for someone who is so content based. I’ll admit that I was skeptical about Stories. Instagram has a habit of taking aspects of very platform specific apps (Vine) and integrating it into their own in an attempt to cut competition. A savage business model that is incredibly successful.
They’ve really hit it out of the park with Stories. It doesn’t interfere with your news feed, your profile, or your notifications. It’s simply a row of users you follow at the top, and that’s it. You can tap a user profile picture to view their story. I’ve been using it steadily since it was introduced. I’m reaching a much larger audience than Snapchat due to my large preexisting following on Instagram. Interaction is easier, with messages heading right into your regular Instagram messages.
I give it a thumbs up. I use it, and I will continue to use it, and I encourage you to do the same. There’s a lot of new information to be gained, and a lot of ways to provide more varied, information heavy content. Give me a follow over on Instagram, and check out my story. @TimPangburn
Posted July 31st, 2016
For those of you who haven’t been following me on Instagram, I’ve been participating in a challenge (well, I technically created it) to do a sketch a day for the entire year of 2016! I’m actually over a month behind, which is shitty on my part, but it’s been a crazy year.
If you’d like to get in on the fun, head over to my Instagram, @timpangburn, and look for my posts of each month’s list! Don’t worry about going back, you can jump in any time. Just find the lists, do the sketches, and use the hashtag #366sketches. I’ve included the August list, and a few examples of some of my past drawings. Happy sketching, everyone!